Real Relationship Goals

Ephesians 5: 21-33.

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

For husbands, this means to love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.

As the scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined o his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.

Today is my grandparents 58th wedding anniversary.

Fifty-eight years together in union! They have raised five children, and now have 11 grandchildren. This December, they will get to witness their first grandchild get married, adding another member to our growing family.

My grandpa has swam across the Mississippi River, both still water ski, bicycle, and kayak together.

They have celebrated many many highs together, from watching their own children wed, to coaching their grandchildren and being the first to witness us each get up on water skis. They have watched their kids grow up and chase after professions they enjoy. They’ve beat the grandkiddos at endless games of Peanuts, and they have celebrated several years happily together.

They have also been through rough days together. From farm accidents, to bicycle crashes, to bouts of cancer and radiation treatments, they’ve known dark days too.

Nevertheless, their relationship continues to evolve and flourish.

What makes their relationship withstand the stormy days and allow them to celebrate and rejoice in the good times?


He is at the center of their relationship. Their marriage was built upon the foundation of the Lord. They are the true definition of today’s “Relationship Goals.”

It has been an honor to be their grandchild. To watch and witness their marriage grow through the years. My grandmother has set a profound example of what qualities to be as a woman, and my grandpa a living example of which characteristics to look for in a life long partner and husband. They show us what really matters when all is said and done: not money, not attention, not possessions; but love and commitment to one another and to Christ.

Happy Anniversary James and Esther. May you continue to be blessed in love and union with one another for years to come.

???? – lifeofmalware

One Reply to “Real Relationship Goals”

  1. This is a wonderful blog post about true love, sacrifice, hard work, dedication and true love,, and Christ at the center of it all. Well said beautiful lady.

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